**Orgasm control is one of the best ways to add fun to your sex life, whether alone or with a partner. It’s an exciting exploration activity, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, or relationship status. If you’ve read about orgasm control, you’ll know how expansive this topic is, and there’s plenty more exciting exploration ahead!
Simply put, orgasm control is the act of restricting oneself or another from climaxing. Often combined with “tease and denial,” this type of activity can last from a few minutes to several months.
In female-led relationships, it’s usually seen as a serious activity with fixed punishments and rewards; the privilege of orgasm release is a reward for completing chores or task lists. But it doesn’t always have to be so intense. Denying oneself or your partner can be a pleasurable experience, so why not mix it up and add some fun to your intimate relationship by exploring these games?
Orgasm Control Games
Most of these games are aimed at couples (one being the “submissive,” i.e., the denied, and one being the “dominant” – the controller), but they can easily be adapted for those choosing self-lock or those in non-monogamous dynamics.
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Subjugation Games
1. Points System
Assign your partner (or yourself) some points for set tasks and chores, which can later be redeemed for rewards.
Example:
• Household chores like cooking, sweeping, cleaning the bathroom, or exercising can range from 1-10 points, depending on your generosity!
• Tasks might include: wearing a butt plug.
2. Verbal Motivation
What could be sexier than erotica penned just for you? For this game, the dominant sets a writing assignment for the submissive to complete. Once the task is completed to the dominant’s satisfaction, the submissive is rewarded with release from chastity. Exceptional dedication, creativity, and storytelling might even allow an orgasm.
Alternate tasks could include:
• Keeping a diary detailing their chastity journey for a certain number of days/months
• Writing a specific scene or event for the dominant to enjoy
• Sharing memories, fantasies, or secrets
• Writing about the best orgasm they ever had
• Listing reasons why they love serving you
• Writing an essay about their gratitude for you as their keyholder
• Writing an application for chastity release, including a list of reasons why they think they deserve it
The task medium can even be completely changed to set sketch/painting/creation challenges to please the dominant partner or perform sexual acts like edging themselves (no orgasms allowed!). These could earn more (5-15 points each) or fewer (0.5-2 points each), depending on the dominant partner’s motivation.
Misbehavior or any rule-breaking could also lead to points being deducted. When the submissive partner has accumulated enough points, they may request a reward.
Rewards can include timed activities or pleasurable treats, such as:
• 30 points = 5 minutes of edging by the dominant partner
• 50 points = 1 orgasm or 1 hour out of chastity
• 70 points = 2 hours out of chastity
• 100 points = 1 day out of chastity with an allowed orgasm
• 200 points = 2 days out of chastity with an allowed orgasm
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Getting to Know Each Other Games
1. Movie Night
Watch a movie or TV show with your partner (or by yourself) and set a list of words and related consequences. This game is a great way to share your favorite movies and learn about each other’s taste in pop culture. One idea is to have your chastity partner choose a movie they think you’ll enjoy – this could result in immediate punishment or reward!
Example: Mean Girls (film)
• Every time a character mentions Africa, add one minute to the next edging session;
• Every time a character uses Regina George’s full name, add another day to the chastity countdown/denial period;
• Every time someone says “mean” or “girls,” the submissive must perform a task for the dominant (e.g., foot rub, fetching a drink, massaging shoulders);
• Every time Janis crosses off a task to sabotage Regina, the submissive receives a spanking punishment.
2. Two Truths and a Lie
The dominant and submissive partners take turns sharing three things about themselves. Two must be true, and one must be a lie. The other partner must guess which one is the lie.
Punishment/Outcome Examples:
• Submissive:
• 1 wrong guess = 1 orgasm for the dominant, but none for the submissive
• 2 wrong guesses = 1 day of no orgasm (e.g., an extra day locked in chastity)
• 3 consecutive losses = 1 ruined orgasm
• 1 correct guess = 5 extra minutes added to their next edging session
• 3 consecutive wins = 1 allowed orgasm
• Dominant:
• 1 wrong guess = a teasing act by the dominant towards the submissive (e.g., a strip tease)
• 2 wrong guesses = 2 hours out of chastity for the submissive or 1 allowed orgasm
• 1 correct guess = the submissive must immediately perform a sexual act chosen by the dominant
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Luck Games
There are many ways to come up with games involving chance – with a bit of creativity, almost any popular game can be kinked! Here, I’ll share a few examples, but have fun together and let your imagination run wild!
1. Save the Date
A simple guessing game – the dominant partner picks a date on the calendar (it could be a memorable date like an anniversary or completely random), and if the submissive guesses correctly, they are released from chastity 2 days early and allowed to orgasm on the dominant’s chosen date. If they guess wrong, the number of days/months guessed is added to the chosen date – so attempts to release early better not be too optimistic!
2. Coin Toss
A very simple game involving a coin toss. When the submissive has the chance to be released from their chastity cage or be allowed to orgasm, their fate lies in the flip of a coin.
The dominant flips the coin, with each side having a reward or punishment – the dominant partner chooses beforehand whether to share the reward/punishment with the submissive.
Example:
• Heads Reward: 10 minutes of genital stimulation for the submissive (orgasm allowed)
• Heads Punishment: 5 extra days locked in chastity
• Tails Reward: 15 minutes of oral stimulation from the dominant to the submissive (orgasm allowed)
• Tails Punishment: an extra week without an orgasm
For instance, if the submissive chooses “tails,” there are two possible outcomes:
• The coin lands on tails = the submissive gets the 15-minute reward
• The coin lands on heads = the submissive stays in their chastity cage for another 5 days.
This game can be adapted for solo or cooperative play, better suited for larger group scenarios (e.g., several chaste submissives, with punishments/rewards performed in front of others or among themselves). A bit of imagination can go a long way, and it might even be best of three – if the submissive is very lucky, their rewards might accumulate, or their punishments might cancel out any rewards, leaving them frustrated for longer.
If the submissive partner loses, they might encounter a similar game (same or different rewards/punishments) at their next release date.
3. Chastity Lottery
Use a random number generator app to decide the number of days the submissive will remain locked. Alternatively, write a list of numbers or set dates on equally sized pieces of paper and let the submissive pick one from a jar.
You can make this game even more unpredictable and adventurous for the submissive by adding other slips of paper into the jar, such as:
• Set tasks/chores (to be completed before release)
• Timer (e.g., 1 minute 37 seconds) – if the submissive can orgasm within that timeframe, they might be allowed out of chastity for the next 12 hours
• Immediate commands to follow, such as “lick my shoes,” “bring me to orgasm,” or “edge yourself for 3 minutes without orgasm”
• Punishments, such as spankings or humiliating acts
• Instant or big rewards: “1 week out of chastity”
• Random gifts or surprises: “IOU new toy” or “date night tomorrow.”
4. How Many Days?
Roll a die (or several) to decide how long you or your partner will be denied. To add an extra element of teasing to this game, the dominant partner could also roll.
Example results:
• If the dominant’s number is higher than the submissive’s, the total of all dice becomes the new number of days denied (or hours/months).
• If the dominant partner rolls a lower number, the total of all dice becomes the number of orgasms they will receive before the submissive is allowed release.
• Another result could be the number of minutes (or hours) the submissive will be teased before unlocking.
I hope these ideas provide some exciting ways to incorporate orgasm control into your relationship. Whether you’re a dominant looking for new methods or a submissive eager to explore, these games can add fun and depth to your intimate experiences.
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