Bodily Fluids: A Sensual Discussion
Bodily fluids can be quite a kinky topic. However, some fluids are too extreme for many to handle. Today, let’s talk about a balanced fluid that’s just right for play—saliva.
Saliva is somewhat magical among all bodily fluids—it’s cleaner than dirty but dirtier than clean.
It’s similar to kissing. A forced kiss can feel gross, but with mutual attraction, it can become incredibly addictive.
Years ago, when I found out my partner liked saliva play, I was extremely opposed to it.
But after experiencing it in an intimate and trusting atmosphere, it felt less like disgust and more like “naughty” sexiness.
I like to call saliva play the “true love detector.” Only two people who completely accept each other can enjoy this “flooded with shame” kink.
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I might not be the only one interested in “spit play.”
One of the members of One Direction, Harry Styles, famously spat into the hands of Chris Pine at the Venice Film Festival.
Chris Pine, who received the spit, looked at his hand and continued clapping, even giving a shy smile.
The internet went wild, with many realizing how intimate and sexy spit play could be.
While spitting on strangers is an insulting and degrading act, in the context of private kinks, saliva becomes an intriguing and intimate fluid.
Dr. Sarah Melancon, a sociologist, clinical sexologist, and resident expert at a specialty toy store, points out that on one adult website, there are over 1.1 million videos under the saliva fetish category.
All this can be summed up in one phrase: “Daddy, spit on me.”
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Spitting is probably the easiest of all kinky plays (though be aware that saliva and mucous membrane contact can transmit various STIs like herpes, gonorrhea, chlamydia, HPV, syphilis, and trichomoniasis, which I will elaborate on later).
Saliva, like other bodily fluids, carries an enticingly sinful quality—it’s wet, slippery, dangerous, private, and filled with your partner’s essence.
There are many ways to incorporate saliva play, but they are all quite simple. It can be as direct as spitting on your partner, or more creatively, sharing saliva through passionate kisses.
Why does kissing (which involves saliva exchange) feel so intoxicating?
Psychologically, the premise is that you really like your partner, so you’re willing to accept everything about them, without feeling any disgust.
A boy shared his journey from being lovers to exploring kink with his girlfriend:
He was very sensitive and ticklish, which made his girlfriend enjoy teasing him.
They didn’t start with spit play, but once she made him hold water in his mouth to resist laughing, he found it surprisingly sensual.
They then bought a beautifully designed UPKO rose gag. When the rose was in his mouth, he couldn’t swallow his saliva, and it would drip down his chin. He found this look very satisfying, though he didn’t like the sticky feeling on his skin or spitting into a container.
In front of someone you love, the boundaries of “gross” can be broken, replaced by true intimacy. The love and affection can make you enamored with their scent and body, their sweat isn’t repulsive, and kissing them doesn’t feel dirty.
From a physiological standpoint, human arousal lowers the threshold for disgust and revulsion.
However, this “indulgence and acceptance” privilege only applies to someone you genuinely care about. The same actions with someone you don’t feel for (like a casual fling) can be extremely repulsive.
Thus, saliva play only works when the hormones driven by love can make you accept everything about your partner, including their fluids.
Without this “chemical reaction,” spitting is just vulgar and gross.
Having feelings alone isn’t enough. The visual aspect of fluid aesthetics matters too. Clear, flowing saliva can be attractive, but thick, frothy saliva is off-putting.
A user named DengYD29 shared a traumatic experience:
While tipsy on a date with her ex-boyfriend, she knelt down, feeling sweet and romantic, ready to receive a romantic gesture from “Daddy.”
She expected a sensual, controlled droplet, but he spat forcefully, hitting her eye with a bubbly glob of phlegm. She had to rush to rinse her eyes with water, overwhelmed by the smell of his cigarette breath.
Spitting in relationships inherently carries a strong sense of shame and taboo. This extreme exploration can add elements of challenge and thrill, but it can also easily lead to disgust if not done correctly.
Simply put, the line between like and dislike is thin, so be cautious and ensure mutual consent.
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Saliva play can be very safe physically, but it does carry certain risks.
Firstly, there’s the risk of the sub feeling shocked and disrespected, potentially leading to an instinctive, angry retaliation spitting back at the dom.
Avoid rushing to spit in someone’s face on the first play session—this is a personality-crushing act unless previously agreed upon.
Mutual consent is crucial. Do not spring surprises!
Secondly, saliva should never be used as a lubricant.
Saliva is not as clean as you might think. While spitting on the skin is one thing, using it as a lubricant for penetration can increase the risk of STI transmission between partners.
For example, genital herpes can be spread through skin contact and saliva exchange. If saliva from a herpes-positive person is used as a lubricant, it poses a significant risk.
Even if your partner has no visible sores, they could still be an asymptomatic carrier.
Additionally, diseases like gonorrhea, chlamydia, HPV, syphilis, and trichomoniasis can be transmitted from saliva to genitals.
Even without STIs, the bacteria in saliva differ significantly from those in the vagina. Saliva contains digestive enzymes that can disrupt the vaginal microbiome, leading to infections like yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis.
According to a 2020 announcement published in Obstetrics & Gynecology, saliva can sometimes trigger inflammatory processes, causing itching and burning.
Apart from these health risks, saliva is not an effective lubricant.
Lubricants reduce friction, but saliva evaporates and dries quickly, potentially causing irritation and micro-tears in delicate tissues. This can lead to pain and increase the risk of infection.
If someone insists on using saliva as a lubricant, they should first experience the discomfort of a scratchy loofah to understand the consequences.
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Are you intrigued?
Hold on—one last risk reminder: saliva play can easily backfire unless both parties are genuinely into it.
Carefully assess the level of trust and mutual acceptance. Only when both parties are comfortable with each other’s “dirtiness” should you proceed.
Otherwise, opening this Pandora’s box will lead to one of two outcomes:
“Baby, you’re so naughty”
or
“You’re disgusting”
References:
[1] Genital Herpes – CDC Basic Fact Sheet, cdc.gov
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