Please Don’t Be Obsessed with Making Your Girlfriend Orgasm!

I’ve answered this question so many times that my feelings are now as calm as a still pond…

Please don’t be obsessed with making your girlfriend orgasm! 🙅‍♀️

Many people’s impressions of “orgasm” come from various adult films.

In these films, the standards for judging whether a woman has orgasmed include “flushed face,” “tongue out,” “eyes rolling back,” “tears,” “incontinence,” “tremors,” etc.

Just like how horror movies use sudden scares and exaggerated sound effects to stimulate the audience’s adrenaline, the above “orgasm” expressions are often just exaggerated methods used in films to create a contrast in traditional sexual activities.

The contrast from a woman’s neutral expression to extreme/exaggerated expressions and physical reactions brings a strong visual impact to the audience, aiming to stimulate them.

(After all, if it’s not stimulating enough, you wouldn’t want to watch adult films, let alone pay for them, right?)

In the previous article, I mentioned that traditional sex acts often don’t provide women with very pleasurable sensations or orgasms.

So, obsessing over making a woman display the same kind of orgasm shown in movies during traditional sex is as difficult as chasing a high-speed train on a bicycle.

Moreover, orgasm doesn’t necessarily mean there will be obvious reactions!

There can indeed be muscle tremors and secretions during pleasure, but everyone is different! Everyone is different! Everyone is different!

1. For some, an orgasm might just be a moment of extreme psychological satisfaction with no external expression.

(Thoughts: A moment of feeling blank, then not wanting further stimulation.)

2. For some, an orgasm might be a few muscle twitches and psychological satisfaction.

(Thoughts: Feeling muscle twitches and mental satisfaction.)

3. For some, an orgasm might be unconscious secretions without special sensations.

(Thoughts: Suddenly feeling tired and not wanting more, even without strong pleasure or discomfort, just fatigue.)

So why do some girls look like they’re experiencing the typical signs of orgasm you know?

Excluding the 25% who can orgasm through vaginal stimulation, the remaining probability is high that:

The girl is imitating the expressions from adult films to stimulate you and boost your confidence.

Otherwise, why are there so many jokes about feeling like you deserve an Oscar in bed?

What should I do if I want my partner and me to be happy together?

First, understand that learning sexual techniques isn’t just about achieving orgasm; it’s about sexual pleasure. Generally, these techniques can lead to orgasm, but if your partner finds it difficult to orgasm, you need more patience to explore together. Even if you don’t achieve an orgasm, don’t stress too much. Whether or not you reach orgasm, it’s all about sexual pleasure.

Ask her if she has felt happy or satisfied during sex with you.

If yes, that’s a pass!!!

If not, or you want to improve, you can ask her:

“Your answer won’t upset me, and you don’t need to worry about hurting my feelings. Why don’t you feel comfortable? Do you like it when I touch or stimulate certain places? What else can I do for you? Or do you prefer to satisfy me with kisses and hugs, and then make yourself happy?”

Rather than asking strangers online, talk to the person you’re actually involved with.

Understand her needs and what makes her happy; that’s the way to solve the problem precisely.

I hope everyone can find more joy and pleasure in their sexual experiences.