Many BDSM enthusiasts, due to distance or safety concerns, can’t engage in offline training and thus turn to online training.
As of now, I’m also only engaging in online training.
Previously, I interacted with two doms who would assign me tasks and make me punish myself. Honestly, I’m incredibly lazy, and I found it exhausting without getting much satisfaction. So, each relationship lasted about a week before I ended it. However, my current dom is different. We’ve never met in person, but I’m having the time of my life. We’ve been together for almost a year now, and it’s still going great.
In all this time, I’ve only done one task—wearing lingerie to KFC. When I went to the bathroom to take a photo for my dom, my order was called. I quickly pulled up my pants and rushed out to get my food. After understanding my nature, my dom never gave me any more tasks, haha.
Since we engage in training for pleasure, sweating it out without any reaction while the dom leisurely issues commands can be frustrating. However, that doesn’t mean online training can’t be satisfying. High-quality online training can lead to mental euphoria.
Here are some essential points to note:
1. Use Standard Language:
Seriously, dropping a dialect word during training can kill the mood, especially for those who value the atmosphere. One phrase in dialect can be a complete turn-off.
2. Think Carefully About Assigning Tasks:
Many doms make the mistake of having their subs complete tasks, like recording themselves spanking 100 times. I must be honest; I ended things with my last dom because of this. I was busy playing a game when he suddenly assigned me a task. I politely declined, saying I was busy, but he scolded me for it. That was the end for him.
Proper communication before training is crucial. Understand each other’s likes and boundaries before planning sessions that are enjoyable for both. If you find a sub who enjoys completing tasks, you can create reasonable ones. But if you have a lazy brat like me, you’ll need to strategize on how to manage my laziness while still having fun.
Many subs encounter situations where they meet a dom online and plan to start with online training before meeting in person. However, they often find the experience lacks immersion and satisfaction, leaving them exhausted and frustrated. It might feel more rewarding to binge-watch a series or go shopping with friends. Receiving sudden tasks from your dom while out and about can also be a turn-off, making you question the point of online training.
Effective online training isn’t too difficult to achieve. Here are some tips:
Dirty Words:
Be mindful; this doesn’t mean vulgar language but rather words that induce a sense of shame in the sub. It’s important to gauge your partner’s comfort level. Well-timed, suggestive words can create a humiliating yet exciting atmosphere, but overstepping can ruin the mood. When starting with a new partner, communicate beforehand or cautiously explore their boundaries during training.
If you’re not very familiar with each other, use more refined language. For example, refer to nipples as “little grapes,” haha.
After training, always provide feedback. Discuss what words or actions were uncomfortable or particularly exciting. This process can be embarrassing for the sub, but it’s essential for building a long-term relationship and enhancing their sense of shame.
Toys:
Toys can be a game-changer! Some lazy subs, like me, get tired quickly from manual stimulation. My thoughtful dom bought me a whole box of toys and tools after hearing me complain multiple times about being tired. This opened up a new world of strange and exciting play.
Toys can significantly reduce fatigue (though they can still be exhausting in a good way). When introducing toys, always prioritize your partner’s safety and comfort. Don’t overwhelm them with all the toys at once. Remember, this is training, not torture. For subs new to toys, a gradual approach is best.
Feeling overwhelmed below, hearing your dom’s commands and humiliations in your ears, a perfectly orchestrated training session is born.
Hope this helps all the excellent doms and subs out there find their perfect match!
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