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Why Does Discipline Bring Pleasure?
We often use the concept of pleasure to explain why someone engages in BDSM activities. For instance, someone might enjoy being spanked or tied up, finding these activities pleasurable, and thus seeks…
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“I am a male sub, and my inferiority runs deep.”
I once participated in a discussion in a BDSM community group. During the discussion, some people linked male subs with derogatory terms like “worthless,” “beast,” “female supremacy,” and the notion that male…
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“Rescuing the ‘Play and Sleep’ S/Dom: An Aftercare Guide”
The first time I heard the term “aftercare” was when I had a girlfriend who shared an article with me. Along with the article, she bought a bottle of essential oil recommended…
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When Does BDSM Cross the Line into Abuse and Violence?
Understanding the Line Between BDSM and Violence A reader recently left a comment asking, “Can you explain the difference between BDSM and violence?” They had found an S, but felt uncomfortable during…
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Do You Know There’s a “Little Circle” Within the BDSM Community? We Focus on Spanking, Not Sex
Do You Know About the “Little Circle” Within the BDSM Community? If BDSM enthusiasts form a “big circle,” there is another group that flips the “domination and submission” dynamic of the BDSM…
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Exploring Sissy Maids in BDSM
In the BDSM community, there is a group of people who don’t enjoy the mainstream acceptance that rope enthusiasts might have through the aesthetic and artistic aspects of their play. Nor can…
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Aftercare: The Crucial Step You and Your Dom Might Be Overlooking
Aftercare in BDSM: Ensuring Well-being Post-Play Aftercare is the process of mutual checking and care following BDSM activities, ensuring both parties are in good condition and helping them calm down, both physically…
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You treat pets like people; I play pets with people.
Have you ever named your pet? Today, let’s talk about a rather heartwarming aspect of BDSM—Pet Play. What is Pet Play? I know some of you might be thinking, “WTF? People enjoy…